Just for a bit of context and a reality check for everyone on this thread, I have just had the most harrowing 36 hours with my partner of 24 years. Over the years she has divulged certain things that have went on in her family since the 80'S. Our authorities have been contacted about the matters previously but it seems that it's not high on the agenda for investigation.
After the last few hours of venting she has shared things with me that left me questioning the humanity of the religion that is absolved of all sin with a simple penance. My partner has went to her bed after demanding that no retribution will be met despite sharing names dates times etc. as to do so will "wreck the family"
My point is the whole family must be told who when and where these crimes occurred to move forward, i have been sworn to secrecy as all the major players are elderly and no one else in the family wont want to go through the "upheaval" of being interviewed again.
Many of the people on this thread will know I have been quiet of late regarding the major focus of everyone's attention on this subject, I have needed to direct all my energy and care on someone who I sleep beside who has been trying to hold her family together despite the constant denial that anything untoward has went on. However, it should be a timely reminder that this is going on under everyone's watch regardless of what you may think this is not confined to football clubs.
At the time of typing I am still trying to get my head around what was shared and unsure if the authorities will ever get around to fully investigating the incidents. The fall out now makes some sense as to certain peoples personalities and mannerisms, but the devastation I am now witnessing to an extended family is beyond comprehension.
I share this in the hope that everyone will keep in mind the extent that abuse affects families more than the initial crimes committed in the past, it has taken over 20 years for my partner to divulge to me everything that she wouldn't to psychologists and therapists.
There is no right or wrong way to share, it's just when the time is right, I'm glad it was tonight but i would wait another 20 years plus if i had to.