Youre miles off the mark. Youre trying to apply logic and standards, to an environment where they dont exist. Thatcher never had someone screaming in their face and threatening them with physical violence, for dropping a player, or costing them a goal bonus they needed by taking them off early. Ive seen more than a handful of full blown scraps. Theres also a heavy "lad" culture, where weakness is ruthlessly exposed. Honestly i could go on, but whenever you read people talk about controlling a dressing room, like its some sort of office environment, theres no real point in the discussion.
The point about female officials is miles off as well. All officials need to be respected, its the very nature of the position. If you are playing a crucial game and a ref, male or female, make a bad decision. You cant just tell them exactly what you think of them. You can certainly tell your manager what you think of them in the dressing room though. It happens all the time, and it happens on occasion with venom and even physicality.
I doubt there would be any level of respect for a women, whos never even been involved in the mens game as a coach previously either. Its great to see all the wonderfully virtuous people im lucky to share a forum with, unfortunately those type of noble virtues are forgotten on the back of a run of bad defeats and in the heat of the moment things will happen that cant be un-said/un-done.